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Welcome to John's and Max's Blog!

Previously Known As : Nuanced and Shaded
Men have no choice over birth and death; except everything in between.
We have chosen ours.


Thank you for visiting.

We are two gay men, facing life's obstacles as presumably as difficult as yours.

We are not perpetuating insolence and arrogance; we are merely sharing our experience.

This is our blog. This is where we share our lives with the rest of the world. This is where we engrave our triumphs and struggles, for us to cherish, in hopes that you would, as well.

Please leave your comments. Your feedbacks are important to us.

You can also e-mail us at:
Maximus - maximuswiser79 [at] yahoo [dot] com
John - john800410my [at] gmail [dot] com

We keep the words so that our children could keep the wisdom

"An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind." - Mohandas K. Gandhi

"Seven Social Sins :-
Wealth without work
Pleasure without conscience
Knowledge without character
Business without morality
Science without humanity
Worship without sacrifice
Politics without principle" - Mohandas K. Gandhi

"You can never know everything and part of what you know is always wrong. Perhaps even the most important part. A portion of wisdom lies in knowing that. A portion of courage lies in going on anyway." - Robert Jordan

"Developing the mind is important, but developing a conscience is the most precious gift parents can give their children." - John Gray

Keep In View

My work sucks; everybody is well aware of that. Even the martians got the live feed on it.

As time consuming as my life is, at the moment, I still have this blog in mind.

With that, I am putting down a list of Keep-in-Views of events that had surrounded my life which had managed to happen while I am on my hectic routine.

Detailed entries will be created, I promise, and I can only hope that time would grant me the deliverence I need from these desperate times.

  • Working in Shell
    • after a month, all hell breaks loose
    • a lot of tickets
    • night calls
    • weekend change
    • boss from hell
      • cannot talk to subordinates nicely
      • prefer to yell
      • expect with limited manpower, work could be done on time and perfectly
  • John starts to take up choir
  • John meets my sister, the second time
  • PT's first staffs appreciation night
  • John OFFICIALLY moves in with me
  • PT comes to Shell IT International
  • My Mother went through a hard time, health-wise
  • John's series of visits to Malacca
  • Me quitting Shell IT International
  • My Sister is having a difficult time
  • My Bestest Friend Foreverever had her first time 'rollercoaster' experience
  • John starts his driving lesson
  • My cousin's one week stay
  • John's Sister's one week stay
  • John's Mom's Visit and Our OUR YEAR ANIVERSARY
  • My cousin's Wedding and my family's long-awaited get-together
  • My new job
  • My retraction of resignation
  • SAN Storage New Team Members

23 June 2009

Happy Birthday, Mummy!

It's Mummy's Birthday, and we thought celebrating her life with us is the most wonderful thing we could do for her.

John's Brother, David and his girlfriend, Grace, flew in from Singapore as well, to make the day even more memorable.

We planned to celebrate with Mummy in Wong Kok in IOI Mall Puchong. I came in earlier to have the cake prepared. I chose Secret Recipe's Carrot Cake since Mummy doesn't fancy chocolates and cream that much.

It was just fun to be able to be a part of her life, and we wish her long years ahead, with her dreams and happiness snuggling her like the arms she forever have for us.

We love you, Mummy!

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Happy Birthday, Mummy! We love you!

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The Birthday Girl waiting for us to get the cameras set.

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Mummy and us, her beloved and loving children.

17 June 2009

More IKEA Purchase

Mummy's visit this time is merrier than before. This time, John's brother, David, will also be staying over with us.

My initial concern was with the rooms. Since we have 3 bedrooms with 1 of the rooms turned into a store room, privacy could pose as an issue to John and I.

Simplest solution is to have Mummy and Sian in the masterbedroom and David and Grace (David's girlfriend) in the second room. John and I will sleep in the living hall. It great that we got to try our sofabed, as well, this time ;-)

Another issue is with the clothes and wardrobes. We wanted to get something modular; something we could add-on as our "couture" grows.

I went to buy the Antonious and Grom while John was back in Kangar. Grom was for our hardwares and 'refills', and Antonious was for me to get the touch and feel if the storage was right for us - INDEED IT DOES.



That was 2 weeks ago... I realized now that we have to get more Antonious as we would need more space if we were to provision one wardrobe to David and Grace. Our Antonious ended up looking like this...

15 June 2009

Spending My Time

I am leaving T-Systems soon. July 3rd., to be exact.

I am just spending my time here, planning for my handovers and creating documents.

I will start in GSK on Jul 13th. Hopefully, I would be able to spend the free time doing what I wanted to do most.

I would like to disappear from the surface of this earth for a while. I would like to be left alone with my own self. I would like to 'touch-base' with myself, so that I can confirm that I haven't lose myself, in my journey of this corrupting, ambitious road of life that I have chosen for myself.

It will be a new leaf. I am certain I can make it a great one!

27 May 2009

Another Chapter

Yeay. Today, I have got my offer from GSK. Accepted it on the spot.





The job offer came to me attention on March 26th., 2009, along with a handful of other offers.

GSK's deal was good, the job scope is great and I can see that my work-life balance will improve tremendously.

Here goes...

16 May 2009

Favorite New Series and Movies

A dear friend of mine suggested the series and movies below, and I wouldn't appreciate it more.



The Big Bang Theory



It's a sitcom based on 4 extremely geeky guys (Sheldon, Leonard, Howard and Raj) who are living in an apartment across a relatively typical, gorgeous looking girl, Penny.

The series has so far explored the exciting life of geeks, and their larger-than-life take on the universe, while adapting to reality (Read : Penny)



Bigger, Stronger, Faster*



A documentary-movie on steroid use that circles around issues with steroid use amongst the daily gym-rats to the pro sports athletes.

A movie that captivates me based on the ability of the director to make one think on the subject-matter on a broad of a scope and fluent discussion.



Thank You for Smoking



A dark humor movie about a man whose work is to promote the dismissible notion on nicotine effects on the general public.

A must see if you enjoy an occasional slap-in-your-face dark humor.

17 April 2009

Drawing on Nokia 5800 Music Xpress

I used to sketch, a lot. Some of them turned out to be great, and some did not.

I installed MobilePaint for Symbian S60 not long ago, and it's just a great 'upgrade' of my paper sketching. I would just to take my phone out, and with the stylus that comes with phone, sketch my ass off.

Here are some of my drawings.

From 2009 04 17 2300 - My Drawings

My first drawing

From 2009 04 17 2300 - My Drawings

My second

From 2009 04 17 2300 - My Drawings

My third - an attempt to play with colors on creating the moon

From 2009 04 17 2300 - My Drawings

My fourth - an attempt to play with perspective and space

From 2009 04 17 2300 - My Drawings

My fifth - an attempt to draw the human body


Well, perhaps they are not exactly masterpieces, they are my work of art, and I simply love them for the fact that they were drawn on my little handy phone. Hehehe.

13 April 2009

My Scanned Pictures - Part II

A friend of mine posted a bunch of great pictures from our schooling days in Facebook a few days back. It's just wonderful to walk back the memory lane.

I have had these pictures for a while now, and it's about time for me to post them up.

The memories of Sekolah Rendah Kebangsaan Bandar Hilir Melaka - My Primary School





My Secondary School - Malacca High School



05 April 2009

Nokia 5800 Xpress Music

Yeah, I know I said I am not getting a 'toy' with a single point of failure. That's why I bought the PSP and Olympus FE-360, but I still need a new phone, badly! I was running out of space in my phone book and I had to keep the 'anonymous' numbers in my text messages, and they are growing by the day.

And yeah, I know I said I was eyeing for Sony Ericsson T650i, but the Nokia 5800 is just awesome! The touchscreen alone is a godsent!

At first, I am worried about the phone being too big, but it's only 0.5% bigger in volume and 10.1% heavier in mass, compared to my existing Sony Ericsson k750i.

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Comparison of height and width between my previous Sony Ericsson k750i and Nokia 5800


To read more on the comparison on FEATURES, click here!

24 March 2009

Plumbing 101

What is worse when you're living in Selangor than the water supply? The water is so murky, mosquitoes would have second thoughts trying to lay their eggs in the water.

For my hubby, the pain is whenever he is due with our laundry. He had one time did the laundry three times before getting the load clean. That's how bad it was!!

We decided to install a filtering system for the washing machine; something simple that it won't require us to bypass the main water pipe and that we could dismantle easily if we were to leave the place. It's a rented property, at the end of the day, anyhow.

Went to the hardware store last Saturday, and obtained the filtering device. The shopowner was great enough to even teach me how to do it, and supplied me with everything I need to get the job done. I bought a filtering device, a 6-inch long PVC pipe, a tube of PVC glue and a handful of PVC pieces - from elbows to connectors.

Well, I tried to install the filtering system last weekend, but it didn't turn out well. I had a number of joints leaking out water; bursting more like it. I ran out of the PVC white tape and the glue wasn't exactly the best thing to hold the pipes together (which I thought was a good idea, at first)

It was raining heavily earlier today, and I decided to work from home. I managed to sneak out to the hardware store and obtained more PVC pieces, a couple of tubes of PVC glue and the PVC white tape.

A few tweaks and fixes, and viola!!

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My tools and my toolbox.

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Yes, I have a toolbox. Hey, I am still a man, okay!? Growl!


I did some DIYs before and I love it.

Oh god, I wish it will come a day when I will be free to build my own canopy on my own yard!!! I am such a straight-man wannabe! Hahaha.

19 March 2009

My Favorite New Series

Alright, fine.

I don't watch TV much, but there are series that I would die for. Aside from CSI (all 3 'flavors'), House M.D. and Desperate Housewives, the newest favorite on my list would be Brothers and Sisters. [Note : Added a column of "Our Favorites". Hope this would flush away our cool points amongst our friends.]

I am not sure why, but amidst their craziness, they're really making sense and in a very connected and arguable manner. I just love the way they would indirectly discuss a matter every conceivable aspect, and just make sense.

I watched an episode earlier and I was speechless. Nothing more can be said about it except how true it was. Plain and simple.

"No one's 'bi.' Ever meet a seventy-year-old bisexual? At some point they make a choice. Thus the expression 'Bi now, Gay later'" - Kevin Walker in disagreeing that Chad, his closeted gay lover, could actually be bisexual. Source : http://www.tvloop.com/brothers-and-sisters/show/quotes/all/kevin-walker-1254?pg=6

Note : Please don't ask me how long it took for me to look up the quote. It was certainly not fun, but here it is...